Most women who live with a man who drinks too much don't know how profoundly it is affecting them, or how little hope there is of his actually getting better--and staying that way. Mental, emotional, even physical, changes occur in a drinker's woman as she copes normally with abnormal situations. Ariel shows the reader what alcohol is doing to her man, how and why he has changed, how those changes have affected his personality, and how those changes in turn have affected her. We begin labeling the drinker not as "alcoholic," but as an over-drinker. We refer to her not as "co-dependent" but as a drinker's woman. An over-drinker just drinks too much. Long before he will be diagnosed as "alcoholic" his behavior is wreaking havoc in his woman's life. Includes is a hugely extended checklist for diagnosing drinking problems and ascertaining roughly what stage he's in. No longer does his woman have to wait for a doctor diagnose him; she can do it herself. Instead of wondering if she's going crazy, she begins to understand precisely what is happening. The book gives numerous tips and tricks for dealing with an over-drinker, for avoiding or getting out of arguments, for getting her own needs met.
Checklists and assessments help the reader pinpoint areas of her own psyche that have been affected. Exercises and information about what's been happening to her--and how she can begin rebuilding herself. Whether his woman decides to leave him or stay, Ariel gives her help that can make all the difference. She explains why just getting rid of a drinker doesn't fix what his behavior has damaged in her--then begins teaching her how to get her healing and restoration--whether she stays with him or goes. The harm done to a woman by a man who drinks too much can leave scars that will last a lifetime, changing and altering her personality for the worse. Ariel shows her many ways to start turning that around.
An over-drinker is one who drinks so much it changes his personality, both when he drinks and, later, even when he's not drinking. Over-drinking is when it causes problems in his life--his relationship, his family, his job, his finances, his health. Now his woman can understand herself better than the label "co-dependent" allows. The book is informative, instructive, even entertaining at times as Ariel allows dashes of her natural humor to slip into the work.
Checklists and assessments help the reader pinpoint areas of her own psyche that have been affected. Exercises and information about what's been happening to her--and how she can begin rebuilding herself. Whether his woman decides to leave him or stay, Ariel gives her help that can make all the difference. She explains why just getting rid of a drinker doesn't fix what his behavior has damaged in her--then begins teaching her how to get her healing and restoration--whether she stays with him or goes. The harm done to a woman by a man who drinks too much can leave scars that will last a lifetime, changing and altering her personality for the worse. Ariel shows her many ways to start turning that around.
An over-drinker is one who drinks so much it changes his personality, both when he drinks and, later, even when he's not drinking. Over-drinking is when it causes problems in his life--his relationship, his family, his job, his finances, his health. Now his woman can understand herself better than the label "co-dependent" allows. The book is informative, instructive, even entertaining at times as Ariel allows dashes of her natural humor to slip into the work.
