We’ve been taught, maybe by our mothers or maybe by crappy Hollywood films that romance, love and sex are a mystery. I personally think that seeing them as such or forcing yourself to see them as a “black box” is the source of a lot of false hope, disillusionment, frustration and general unhappiness.
Don’t get me wrong, mystery is exciting. Not knowing makes your blood flow faster. Happiness is brought on by risk-taking. Especially in dating and love. But that isn't to say you should immediately, unconditionally and irrevocably surrender control to some higher power that should somehow bring you together with your crush. Just putting your feelings out there and waiting for magic to happen is just irresponsible.
Instead, try to think of dating in another way…
Dating is a process.
Don’t get me wrong, mystery is exciting. Not knowing makes your blood flow faster. Happiness is brought on by risk-taking. Especially in dating and love. But that isn't to say you should immediately, unconditionally and irrevocably surrender control to some higher power that should somehow bring you together with your crush. Just putting your feelings out there and waiting for magic to happen is just irresponsible.
Instead, try to think of dating in another way…
Dating is a process.
